In this interview, acclaimed dating blogger, Tinderella, tells NYDL’s readers about her NYC dating experience and her Tinder-date accounts. The 27 year old British native, in search for true love, has been unwillingly positioned as the “Queen of Tinder”. She started her blog a year ago, and yet remains very hopeful that she will eventually meet her Prince Charming. In the meantime, she continues to swipe, evaluate her Tinder-dates with her ingenious personalized rating system and give her readers private access to each date with hilarious short story.
She truly symbolizes the fact that we shouldn’t give up on dating until we find the “ONE”.
How many people have you dated since you started your blog?
Hmm… I’m not sure of the exact number but I think it would have to be about 30 – some of those for a few months at a time, and some I’ve never spoken to again!
Do you mention all your dates and do you tell them that you’ll “tell” about them?
It’s different with every guy. If I’m certain that I’ll never see them again then I don’t tell them about the blog, as it would be harder to write a candid account of the date if I knew they’d be reading it. If I really connect with the guy, and start seeing him, then I will tell him about the blog and give him the opportunity to decline to be written about. Surprisingly, they often encourage it!
As of today, how many visitors do you have per day?
I am thrilled to have thousands of visitors per day… the best day for visits so far has been 17,000.
How do you rate a date?
There’s no fancy formula… the rating is purely based on my enjoyment of the evening.
What’s your best memory from a date on Tinder?
My best memory from a Tinder date was having dinner with Cheating Tinder at Buvette in the West Village… he was trying to impress me by ordering fancy French food and completely mispronounced ‘Coq au Vin’. The waiter was puzzled and kept asking him to repeat it, it was hilarious and he was so cute about it. I thought, ‘This is the man I’m going to marry’. Too bad he didn’t feel the same way…
What’s your worst memory from a date on Tinder?
Oh god, so many. Most recent terrible memory would have to be sitting with Christmas Tinder in an awful bar in Times Square, listening to him spout bigoted, homophobic nonsense at me.
Why do you think it’s so difficult to find a date in NYC?
I think it’s incredibly easy to find a date in NYC! Harder to find someone I’d actually like to keep dating, though… probably because we’re all so fast-paced, we continually think there might be something better around the corner.
What advice would you give to NYC singles to find date?
Get on Tinder!
What would be your advice for a successful first date?
Ask them questions and resist the temptation to talk about yourself. Don’t get too drunk and NEVER go home with them!
Can you tell us about you Tinder rules for 2015?
The most important one is NEVER DATE A MAN WHO SELFIES.
I’m French and it has been difficult for me to understand the US, and more particularly, the NYC dating process.( I’m now in a relationship with a man who luckily believes in one date= one relationship) How did you get accustomed to the multiple dating, the “official” exclusivity talk….?
I actually love it – I came out of a pretty long relationship and I’m having a pretty amazing time getting to date so many different people. The ‘exclusive’ chat, gives me anxiety every time. The only person that I would have truly invited the exclusive chat from was Cheating Tinder.
Before Tinder, what was your preferred way of meeting a new date?
Before Tinder, I was in a series of long relationships but in between those I would go on dates the ‘old fashioned’ way… with men who asked me out at bars.
I published an article about finding love on Tinder. Do you think we can find true love on Tinder?
To know more about Tinderella, visit her website www.TinderellaNYC.com.