Multi-faceted NYC personality, Mr. Locario is a Dating and Life Coach, who also wears the hats of an author, Public Speaker, Filmmaker and Actor.
The self-proclaimed “Bad Boy of the Dating Game” has been featured on many media outlets, among which Vh1, FUSE, The Dish Network, TLC, ABC Family, The Tyra Banks Show and Anderson Cooper. He has also written for FlaglerHill.com, Singles Warehouse.co.uk, DatingAdvice.com and the Fort Green New York Times Blog.
Over the years, Mr. Locario has helped countless men and women strengthen their relationships, develop confidence in dating, and improve their love lives. His main focus is “to give men and women the knowledge, truth, and confidence to understand what they want.” Part of his approach to dating and the dating game (multiple dating…) can be seen as counter-streaming, even controversial, but remains insightful for people who aren’t ready to settle with one person or have not found the one yet.
In this brief interview, he is sharing his thoughts and advice about dating and relationship. Very interesting…
How did you become a dating expert? And why did you choose to teach the art of mastering infidelity?
I became a dating expert by studying the dating game. I first started by helping my friends who were having trouble with dating and then I started helping others by doing videos and writing articles about relationships. Then I started writing books and doing in-person coaching. I don’t teach the art of mastering infidelity. I teach people how to master themselves. I teach people how to figure out exactly what they want and I help them find ways to get what they are looking for.
Can you tell us about the services you’re offering?
I offer in-person one-on-one coaching, phone/Skype coaching and email coaching. I also offer a membership program where clients get 45-90 minute, step-by-step, detailed dating advice tutorials every month.
How can men build confidence and optimize their way of approaching women?
Men can build their confidence by first figuring out what makes them special and unique. They need to recognize how valuable they are. Once they realize this, they need to bring that sense of self to every interaction that they have with women. Also, by studying the dating game and practicing approaching multiple women, a man will start to get better by noticing what works and what doesn’t work for him. He will then become more confident about approaching women, and as a result have more success.
What advice would you give to women to effectively date and build a relationship with men?
Women need to be less picky and understand how men think. Most women are extremely picky because they are looking for the perfect type of guy. By being so picky, they miss out on actually meeting and connecting with really great men. Most women don’t understand how men think. Since they don’t know how most men operate, they don’t know how to keep men interested. So if women really want to effectively date and build relationships with men, they need to be less picky, gain a better understanding of how men think, and focus on what men are attracted to. By doing these things, they will find a good number of men to date and know how to keep the man they want.
Do you believe there is a Mrs. Right? Do you believe in love and long-term monogamous relationships?
Yes, I believe there is a Mrs. Right. If a guy finds a woman who is right for him, then that is his Mrs. Right. I believe in love and long-term monogamous relationships also. If a person truly wants to be in a long-term monogamous relationship, I think that is what they should do. Unfortunately, some people just get into monogamous relationships because they see other people doing it. People should only be doing it because that’s really what they want.
How can couples spice up their relationships to avoid infidelity?
Couples should be more spontaneous. They should try to do different things and surprise each other. If a couple does the same thing all the time, that could make the relationship get boring and repetitive. They need to stay open minded and remember that it is good to switch things up sometimes.
How can singles make it on the NYC dating scene?
Singles need to try to take time out to actually date. In NYC there is always so many things going on to distract you. So if a person wants to have a dating life they have to make a conscious decision to put some time aside to go out and date. Even if it’s a 30 minute coffee date you need to manage your time so that you will have enough time in your day to meet people.
According to you, what are the biggest turnoffs for men? And for women?
The biggest turn offs for men are women who have a bad attitude, women who aren’t submissive, and women who don’t take care of their looks. The biggest turn offs for women are insecure men, men who are not assertive when they need to be, and men who act like “nice guys.”
What do you mean by “submissive” women and “nice guys”?
By submissive women, I mean women who helps their men out. A woman who helps her man in his projects without making any drama, without objection. It actually brings out her feminity.
By “nice guys”, I mean guys who are push-overs, who don’t have the backbone. The ones who try to accommodate everybody while not being them themselves. Women like men who can be there for them.
What advice would you give to men and women looking for serious relationships?
If you are looking for a serious relationship you have to put yourself out there and date more people. There is no way around this: You have to get out and meet more people. This will help you see who you connect with and who you don’t connect with. Dating is a numbers game. The more people you date, the more you increase your chances of finding the right person for you.
What advice would you give to men to manage multiple dating/hook-ups honestly and ensuring not to hurt anyone?
All a man has to do is not lie. That’s it. Some men think they need to lie to women and tell them that they are the only one they are seeing. They think letting women know that they are interested in seeing other women will scare women off. Some women might not be down with it, but if a woman asks a guy if he is seeing other women, he should be up front about it. This way, he will not be hurting anyone because she already knows what she is getting into if she decides to date him.
Can you tell us about the event “Regain the Game Seminar: New Dating Rules for men”?
This is an exclusive, one time seminar that I am having in NYC on May 15, 2015. I will be teaching men new dating strategies that will help them be successful in the dating game. Tickets for this event are limited, and are available on my website at www.MrLocario.com
Anything you would like to add?
I want to thank you for interviewing me. Also on my website I have a free E-book for men to download called “The Magnificent 10 Crucial Dating Tips For Men” and for women I have a free audio program called “7 Highly Effective Steps To Finding and Keeping a Man.” You can get these free products, more information about my coaching and membership programs on my site www.MrLocario.com.
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